Comments on: I’m sorry to hear that

By: mysinglemomlife

mysinglemomlife — Tue, 18 Nov 2008 23:08:38 +0000

I have goosebumps…because I’m witnessing the most amazing community of single warriors…women EMPOWERED! The strength that exists by those who have overcome amazes me.

Thank you for sharing this amazing post. :O)

Thanks to MsSingleMama for giving us directions to here.

By: Sheila

Sheila — Sun, 09 Nov 2008 06:10:06 +0000

I say the EXACT same thing …

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By: PT-LawMom

PT-LawMom — Mon, 03 Nov 2008 21:50:57 +0000

lilcyndiluwho, were you and I married to the same man? I thought I was the only slut/whore/spoiled American bitch!

By: Wondermom

Wondermom — Sun, 02 Nov 2008 23:43:14 +0000

I love this post…I’ve tried a million times to explain it to people and you said it so well. I didn’t find out that my ex was cheating on me until after we split but he was an alcoholic and abusive. He didn’t want to be a husband or a father. I spent every night apologizing to my babies and making excuses trying to tell them that Daddy really does love us. Trying to explain why he said and did such mean things and why his temper was so scary. When my 4 year old asked me if “lazy” was a nice word or an ugly word and what “bitch” means, I knew this was not the life I wanted for them. I wonder if it had been just me if I would have had the strength to leave or if I would have stuck around making excuses and blaming myself. I couldn’t bear to make my children grow up in that environment though. And when it was time to go, I had no doubts and no remorse, no second thoughts, no regrets. When people tell me they’re sorry, I always respond with “Don’t be. I’m not.” and they don’t know how to take that. It’s not sarcasm or anything like that…it’s the truth. I’d like to say “Why weren’t you sorry when I was living in an abusive relationship for 7 years? Why are you sorry now that I’m finally free and healthy and happy?” but that would probably be worse.

By: QTMama

QTMama — Thu, 30 Oct 2008 19:10:29 +0000

Hmm, I’m sorry people actually say they’re sorry.

Admittedly, I’ve had that said to me before. I always respond with, “You should say you’re sorry to HIM; I’m the one he lost.”

By: stepping over the junk

stepping over the junk — Thu, 30 Oct 2008 17:58:51 +0000

OOOOOOOOHHHHHH totally!!! Even now, three years later, I get that “I’m so sorry.” And I always smile and go “I’m not!” People don’t know how to react to that. I do have some people that say “I’m sure it was hard to go through, but you seem really happy with the divorce!” and I’m like YEAH BABY!.

By: April

April — Thu, 30 Oct 2008 17:35:21 +0000

I know exactly what you mean! (I’m here via Ms. Single Mama.) Throughout most of my marriage, I kept waiting for X to show up and be a dad, be a husband. But he never did. The wait is over.

By: jenn3

jenn3 — Thu, 30 Oct 2008 17:04:15 +0000

I love how you said you’re finding the you that you like. I feel the same way. Looking back at my marriage, I don’t like the person I was when I was married to my ex. I like myself better now.

By: Heidi

Heidi — Thu, 30 Oct 2008 17:01:20 +0000

I’ve actually never heard that response. Generally people just look at me in horror, as if the mother of 2 young children couldn’t possibly be divorced!