The special day

December 24, 2008

On this day 32 years ago I was born.

As a girl growing up I always figured by this age I would be happily married, 2.5 children, big house, stay at home mom. It’s funny, that’s what I always thought I needed to be happy. While I was going through my separation and divorce I just didn’t see how I would be happy without those things.

This last year has been a year of self discovery.  I have learned to be happy as a single woman.  Early this year my brother, shortly after changing his facebook status from single to in a relationship, told me to embrace being single.  He told me to enjoy it. And I took him seriously. 

I began to get out. I got a night life (when my kids were with their Dad). I reconnected with old friends and made new ones. I went on vacation by myself. I learned to flirt again. I learned to dance. I let go of the idea that being divorced was somehow my failure.  I lost weight. I had a one night stand with a firefighter. I found closure to my marriage. I learned to drink beer. I took the T by myself. I went to the movies by myself. I sat at a bar by myself. I let go and enjoyed life.

Thanks for joining me along the way. It’s been a good year, I’ve had fun sharing it with you. I’m counting on the next year to be even better. I think there are good things in store for me.



  1. “I let go and enjoyed life.” Is one of the best presents you could have given yourself. I can’t wait to be able to say that. Well, anyway,


  3. Happy Birthday to you!!

    I too grew up with the very same notion of what my adult life would be like. I envy your ability to find yourself. I still harbor so much resentment because my happily ever after failed. I am working towards embracing my life the way it is and hope to be where you are someday.

    You have much to be proud of. Enjoy your day!!

  4. I love this one! Happy birthday! I love you!

  5. Merry Christmas to you and the kids. Hope your day is wonderful and full of magic !

  6. Congratulations on your awesome year! As another divorced-six-months-before-30 girl, it brings me hope to hear that you are getting there (and where do I find a firefighter?!?!)

  7. 2009 will be your year definitely!!! 🙂

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